Christian women and masturbation

It's not something to be particularly proud of, either. A single woman, in her forties, a staff-member in a fundamentalist church came for counseling. She'd been referred by her senior pastor, who didn't know her 'problem', and she didn't want to tell him, but she said she 'needed to talk to someone about something. Eventually she stuttered: 'Actually my problem's a terrible one.

God designed sexual expression to unite a man and woman in an intimately loving embrace that is total, faithful, free and fruitful—and thus in marriage. Consequently, masturbation is a sin against the Sixth Commandment , because it violates the God-inscribed unbreakable bond between the love-giving and life-giving aspects of the marital act see CCC Instead of the intimate and mutual self-giving that is the hallmark of the marital act, masturbation—and whether within marriage or outside of marriage —is an act in which one turns selfishly inward. Masturbation attempts to dualistically divorce the physical behavior we choose to engage in from shaping our self-identity, as if the former had nothing to do with the latter. Masturbation fails to see that our bodies are not something we have but are essential to who we are and how we express ourselves as human persons, as body-soul composites CCC In his address to a group of U.

Like most women, I think, my experiences with it go back a long time and I have extremely conflicted feelings and memories about it. Throughout my teenage years I battled with it constantly. It was the first thing I ever really felt betrayed by God about. He said that his strength was made perfect in our weakness, right? He said that we could cast all our burdens on him and he would take care of them?

I would rather my daughter masturbate than go sleep around. Those questions reflect many I receive regarding masturbation. I am always careful when I address this subject because it is so intensely personal and there is always more to the story than just the act of masturbating. If it were, this would be less of a discussion. Some people point to the story of Onan, who was struck dead after he used the withdrawal method to avoid impregnating his widowed sister-in-law true story: Genesis